The weekend before my first life coaching session I spend idly drawing up a list. A list of things I would like to improve on, or change in their entirety. I have decided to go into the process as objectively as possible. After all, I have a lifetime of journalistic experience to draw on. It is paramount that I remain as objective as possible, but I find myself feeling a little jaded.
What can a Life Coach do for me that a plethora of therapists could not do for me? And so I list things like:
✅ a reluctance to complete projects
✅ the book I have on the backburner
✅ my desire to embrace and implement an organised approach to work and home.
That is as far as I go.
IS CHANGE POSSIBLE?
I think…I’m fifty two years old…my habits have been cast in stone. My desk looks like it has been hit by a tsunami and has done so for the past thirty years. I spend an hour looking for something that I need. Alas! The much-needed document is filed along with missing socks, a sandal, a pen I really liked, and more worrying; my purse. It’s exhausting.
THE FIRST SESSION
I’m not going to say much, I think. Let Simone figure out what I should do about it. After all, she is the life coach. And so it is with a strange little knot of tension in the pit of my stomach that I get ready for my ninety-minute meeting with Simone. Wow I think, ninety minutes is a long time – I don’t have that much to say. Later, upon reflection I think that I may have filled up a three-hour session.
SESSION 1 STARTS UNLOCKING MY MIND
The questions Simone asks unlock a series of surprising responses in me. I immediately feel ‘safe’ with her. After only one 90-minute evaluation session I have already gained new insights. Specifically into some of the reasons why I may be doing the things I do, sabotaging myself.
I had not realised that issues I thought I had long since dealt with, but hadn’t really, have a negative impact. This affected my self-worth and my dreams for the future. I realised I deal with painful issues by pretending they are not there. Just like the chaotic cupboard in my bedroom, I just don’t open its door.
INSIGHTS IN THE AFTERMATH
The first day after my first coaching session is filled with some of the exercises I must action. I am left dazed by the insights I gain as I do them. “Baby steps,” I hear Simone say to me as I do the exercises. My trepidation about what the programme can offer me, is replaced by a sense of excitement.
I can’t wait to see where my journey takes me. The knowledge that I have the best possible guide accompanying me on my travels, makes me feel safe.
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